Celebrating Valentine’s Day single makes me thankful for me, myself and I at the end of the day.
I came out of a relationship recently, so this will be my first time spending Valentine’s Day alone in a while. It helps knowing other people are in the same boat — 30% of U.S. adults are single, and nearly 60% of those aren’t looking for a relationship or casual dates, either.
Gratitude is one of my most prominent feelings as Happy Hearts Day slowly arrives. After all, it’s better to spend the occasion alone rather than with a partner you don’t see eye to eye with. It’s better than being in a relationship where your personal growth feels stagnant and you no longer feel joy.
When things ended, I felt guilty yet relieved because a part of me had been waiting for the relationship to end. I was ready to be alone. That said, a small part of me still sought a little romance, especially when February was so close.
Have you ever wondered what it would be like to meet the right person just in time for a Valentine’s date? I thought that scenario would happen to me while I went out and met new people, but clearly, the universe had something else in mind.
I started thinking that, at the end of the day, it’s the first time I’ve been single in a while. And it was ultimately my choice to break things off with my partner rather than work on them. It’s my choice to avoid rushing into a new relationship because I recognize I need time to heal and appreciate everything outside of romance.
You get to think a little more clearly when you’re alone, and I recognize I’m the person with my best interests at heart. I can only celebrate Valentine’s Day with a smile because I’ve finally realized my importance.
Is It Natural to Feel Lonely on Valentine’s Day?
It’s more than OK to be single on Valentine’s Day. That said, it’s also understandable to feel lonely. Media and the people around you associate the day with the glamor and allure of an intimate and sexual relationship. So, when you don’t have that — even when it’s your choice — you start to think you’re a little bit of an outcast.
I find beauty in celebrating Valentine’s Day alone, but there’s also strength in turning to your people at this time. No man is an island, and messaging a friend or loved one can help you support your mental health. It’s even better when they’re single, as they know what it’s like.
You could even spend the day with them if it makes you happy. Host a singles-only dinner party and invite your friends. Your family would also appreciate being the recipient of a love-filled meal. Share your woes and feel a deep sense of affection.
Activities to Enjoy on Valentine’s Day While Single
Celebrating your first Valentine’s Day single is best done alone. After all, about 32% of women rarely make time for self-care. If there’s ever a day to go and show yourself some love, why not today? Here are a few suggestions:
Create a mini home spa session: Very few things are better than having a warm bath and face mask, all in the comfort of your own home. Light your favorite scented candles and just relax in the tub. Have snacks and water on the side. When you get out, you can do and paint your nails.
Have a baking session: Get a sweet treat after a full day of baking. You can learn how to make anti-Valentine’s Day Heart cupcakes with box mix and canned frosting or make some classic chocolate chip cookies. Savory dishes like lasagna or baked sushi are also delectable meals.
Drive out of town: Have an adventure with just yourself by driving out of town. If you love to plan, you can make the itinerary ahead of time. You can also spontaneously eat at a local diner and check out all the landmarks you want to see.
Treat yourself to a shopping spree: If gift-giving is your love language, organize a shopping spree. You can buy a jewelry set, clothes, a bouquet of flowers or an old-fashioned box of chocolates. End the night by dining at your favorite restaurant.
Go to an event: Blend in with the crowd and watch a live event. It could be anything from a concert to a comedy show. Indulge yourself in the company of strangers, support entertainers and just laugh.
Personally, I think I’m going to escape the world by rereading my favorite book on Valentine’s Day afternoon. At night, I’ll have a glass of wine and watch my favorite rom-coms — and maybe have an extra glass or two, depending on how I feel.
Love is still in the air, but it can be platonic, familial or any other form of tenderness. You must also strive to practice self-endearment on Valentine’s Day. You are special and deserve so much. I’m rooting for you — for us.
// Mia Barnes, Editor-in-Chief at Body+Mind
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